it’s completely acceptable to stay alive for tiny reasons. because you want to hear your favorite song one more time. because your dog will miss you if you leave. because the moon is just too pretty to never see again. because you haven’t seen the next season of a really good tv show. because you want to see the christmas lights this year. if you’re alive, you’re doing enough. if you’re surviving, i’m proud of you.
Suicidal people deserve better than to be told the main reason they shouldn’t kill themselves is because of how it might affect others. Suicidal people deserve love and help, not guilt trips. Suicidal people deserve to feel like their life is worth living, for their own sake, for their own happiness, their own experiences, their own possibilities, their own future.
there’s nothing wrong with admitting you were once toxic.
there’s nothing wrong with admitting you made a couple people feel like shit.
there’s nothing wrong with admitting you fucked up and were horribly arrogant and parasitic.
there’s nothing wrong with admitting you did anyone wrong, especially if you’ve learned from it. If you’re humble enough to admit it, I guarentee there’s a bit of a good person inside of you.
Must be nice to be a man and feel absolutely zero guilt or concern while you sit on your arse in front of the tv as your wife frantically runs herself into the ground with the never ending grind of holiday cooking/cleaning/gifting/wrapping/decorating/tidying/arranging/crafts/familial politics
it always bewilders and offends me that at family gatherings all of the women are up cleaning, cooking, clearing the table after dinner, bringing snacks out, etc., and all of the men are just relaxing and sitting around. I’m also up cleaning, clearing peoples’ plates, etc., because I’m expected to do that as a female, while my male cousins get to sit around and chill. Even the male relatives that I like just sit around and chat and don’t seem to notice that my sister and I are constantly being called into the kitchen and they’re not.
so anyway yeah if you’re a male you should seriously try to pay attention to who’s doing all the work and who’s allowed to sit and chill (probably you) and maybe like, get up and insist on helping…
I seriously can’t speak for all males……but as for myself I am the first one up after everyone’s done eating taking plate and doing dishes. because I know how much pressure my female family members have during the holidays trying to make sure everything goes the way they want it so everyone one is happy
I think it’s important to drop some facts and maybe some discussion on Otabek and Yurio as a romantic ship, since it’s such a heated topic. It’s better that things get discussed rather than argued over. So, episode 10 was slaying life. And then Mr. Hot-Mysterious-Motorcycle-Guy saved our Russian kitten from literally all of us his fans.
Literally, we all know that the show is hinting. The dialogue isn’t romantic, but the feeling is there.
So! Into the boring shit we go!
Firstly: By loose definition (Wikipedia and a dictionary,) pedophilia is a psychiatric diagnosis in which a person over the age of sixteen is sexually attracted to pre-pubescent children. Is Otabek over sixteen? Yes. Is Yurio pre-pubescent? No. It can be pretty much assumed that, as he is fifteen, he has hit puberty already. Don’t get me wrong, there could be special circumstance, and at one point Yurio mentioned something in dialogue about him needing to skate as much as he can before his ‘body changes’ or something along those lines, but it doesn’t make much sense to look super far into these things. He’s fifteen. Generally, that is not going to be a pre-pubescent age, or even an early pubescent age.
After some research, another way I found pedophilia diagnosed was as an adult(18+)’s attraction to a minor of a five year or higher age gap. How many years span between Otabek and Yuri? Three. Age of consent between minors and adults in both Yurio’s and Otabek’s home country? Sixteen. As soon as Yurio is sixteen, he is legally able to consent sexually. And aside from that, I’m damn near sure that Yurio is going to turn 16 relatively soon.
So there’s the boring shit. Would Otabek having sex with Yurio at this exact point in the show be considered illegal? Yes. Pedophilia? No.
But that is beside the point. To those thinking that anyone shipping Yurio and Otabek is pedophilia… Why would a Yurio-Otabek relationship instantly need to involve sex?Healthy relationships, particularly not teen ones, don’t tend to work that way, if I am not mistaken.
Generally, falling in love with someone seems to begin with friends. Friends for whatever reason.
Sometimes friends simply for the sake of needing a friend.
Those friends then bond more closely through mutually shared ideas, thoughts and interests. After time is spent together, however long that may be, they build trust for each other, and… They fall in love. This is how Yuri & Otabek’s relationship has begun. It may not play out in this way, but…
It doesn’t matter at this point that Yurio is fifteen, because right now, he is only just getting to know Otabek. They are starting out as friends, and getting to know each other. Their relationship doesn’t have to be sexualized, because they aren’t on that level yet, and at the pace they are going, they likely wouldn’t reach that level for quite some time. By the time that level of care for each other is reached, they would likely be of an age in which it wouldn’t matter.
Not only this, but both Otabek and Yurio seem to be getting along well. They’re fairly alike. Even Otabek seems to think so.
They’re both quiet, stoic little things. They probably have mutual interests.
They’re simply enjoying each other’s company. Very non-sexually, might I add. They have so much potential as a healthy, beautiful relationship.
NEWSFLASH: shockingly, gay people hang out with other gay people! so if you have one gay character, you should probably have more than one! it’s not some kind of “lone gay wolf” bullshit! more @ nine.
ship’s computer crashes due to virus acquired during a porn download from a lower decks ensign
firmware update was pushed out to the fleet, has vital error in the clock program that causes every computer to repeat 2300. translators have to explain to the enemy why everyone is an hour late to peace talks.
unintelligble message is sent out into the void because someone’s pet cat walked across their keyboard. message is interpreted as a marriage proposal.
universal translators break, everyone is reduced to hand gestures
viewscreen has dead pixels in the upper left corner, drives the captain a bit bonkers
space gps tells us to take a right where we should take a left. plucky recent academy grad on the graveyard shift realizes that this would take us into the sun and makes the course correction. ship’s computer advises her for two hours to make a u-turn when it is safe to do so
“siri, how do I land a space ship” is heard over the ship speaker system.
achilles is so often called gay by the community and straight by society even though he fell in love with men and women. freddie mercury is known as the most famous gay man even though he self identified as bisexual. channing tatum is constantly called straight even though he’s dated men and women. evan rachel wood and angelina jolie and drew barrymore–all self identified bi women constantly called straight.
sappho wrote love poems for both men and women and yalls response to the idea that she might have been bi is “there was no concept of bi/gay back then!! let’s focus on the fact that she was sapphic!!” to the point where her name has become synonymous with gay and she’s called a lesbian icon and y’all only seem to have issues with “concepts” and labels when the concept/label is BI. why am i not surprised?
PETA: They’d rather spend their money on publicity campaigns than on the animals in their care. PETA killed 73.8% of the animals in their care in 2015 (x)
FCKH8: Is a for-profit company that exploits oppressed groups for money. They’re also wildly uninformed, and spread misogyny, cissexism and bi/panphobia, as well as stealing their posts/designs (x)
Autism Speaks: They spend most of their money on researching a way to eliminate autism, heighten the stigma against autism and don’t have a single autistic person on their board (x)
Please support other, better charities, and feel free to add any others you can think of to this.
Susan G. Komen for the Cure: CEO makes insane amounts of money, they deny a lot of requests for wigs/help with treatment/etc., and have attempted to sue other charities that use the color pink as part of their anti-breast cancer campaign. ( xxx )
The Salvation Army: They promote the hatred of LGBT+ people, work with fundamentalist Christian groups to support conservative politics and rip off and exploit workers. ( xxx )
Wounded Warrior: They take money that should be spent on veterans and blow it on huge opulent parties for the company bigwigs. 26 million in 2014 alone wasted! ( xxx )
^ Important reminder to NOT waste any money donating to these groups
Reblogging because of the added info about Wounded Warrior.
A good way to know if a nonprofit you’re donating to is allocating their money in the right way is to check out their Charity Navigator rating: http://www.charitynavigator.org
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