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i love that every pokémon is someone’s favourite pokémon. it doesn’t matter how much you dislike a pokémon or how forgettable you you think a design is, out there is someone who thinks it’s their baby. my coworker who only discovered pokémon through pokémon go absolutely loves tangela and has a small army of fully powered up ones. at an expo once i saw a woman at a booth desperately trying to find an onix plushie because it was her daughter’s absolute favourite. i talked with someone recently who announced sudowoodo as their tippy top favourite. every single one is loved by someone and idk, i think that’s gotdang heartwarming

I love Swinub. Cute little baby piggy

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9/11 made antis is the best meme ive ever heard lmao

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Thanks for telling me! But I can’t take credit for that one. What I said was a lot of anti-shippers seem to have grown up after American culture became hyper-paranoid, so you don’t even remember what it was like to not be hyper-paranoid. And it’s pretty natural for paranoid people to try to control what other people do so they feel safer, instead of trusting them to look after themselves.

The shift to a paranoid culture happened after the 9/11 attacks, because the attacks were used as an excuse by Republicans to overreact and scare people into giving them lots and lots of governmental control. That’s why I mentioned 9/11 as the turning point.

But I’ve seen the copypasta version of my post that makes out that I said 9/11 made antis, and it’s a truly artful meme. A masterful shitpost that deserves recognition. 👌

This is something that sociologists and economists talk about a lot – the 9/11 attacks had a huge impact on not just the geopolitical sphere, but one of the most influential events of this generation’s society and culture in general. A lot of sociologists consider it to be a dividing line of what separates someone from being an “old millennial” versus “young millennial”, and some consider it to be the cut-off point for millennials in general. Some people have even dubbed Gen Z the “9/11 generation”, because they don’t know a time before it.

I grew up in the 80s and 90s, so I DO remember a time before this. I remember when you could meet someone or see them off the aeroplane at the gate, when they didn’t have invasive full-body scanners and a ton of other things. I remember the shift happening, because I was a teenager at the time. It was almost instantaneous. People were ruled by paranoia and blind patriotism.

The way 9/11 was dealt with did create a culture of fear. Younger millenials and and Gen Z grew up in it. Of course that’s going to affect how they take in and process information.

I don’t see why that’s controversial.

I think it’s worth mentioning that this is part of why anti culture is mostly US based. This brand of paranoia post 9/11 is particular of the “Western World” (as in Huntington’s definition of it) of which the US and part of Western Europe is part of.

Where I live and was born and raised, a Latin American country, while there was a bit of paranoia the year or so after 9/11 — and people thinking that there were anthrax attacks, even tho here those were hoaxes — afterwards… No one really cared.

Maybe it’s the cultural differences, the lack of military power, the fact that we had an on going economic crisis during that year that exploded in some of the biggest shit I’ve ever seen (people died during protests), or maybe it’s a combination of it all.

But in a lot of places outside the “West” well… No one gave that much of a shit after a year or two of it. It wasn’t close enough to us to give us the social trauma that other countries, specially the US, still hold today.

From an outsider’s perspective, in the “West” sense, it just seems like people translating the cultural and political climate they were raised in into something unrelated, in an effort to fulfill some desire for control they don’t have in their lives or in aspects of their lives, while failing to recognize the damage they might be doing to themselves and others.

Maybe they think that if they had “governmental control” over fandom content they’d be safe, because in their paranoia they think they’re right, but at the end of the day copying Big Brother with good intentions will never make anything good.

It just makes another kind of Big Brother.

After typing this I got to thinking about some stuff and I’m just gonna add it v quick because it hit me like a sack of bricks ngl.

And what hit me is that, when I said that antis translate cultural and social climate I didn’t realize how fucking much they do it.

Because what they’ve done, regularly, since anti culture sort of exploded, was single out individuals (sometimes people who had nothing to do with the fandom the antis in question consumed, sometimes not even fandom people) and get their information — stalking their blogs, doxxing them, etc. — and then attack them with whatever they could get, accusing them of crimes (the whole pedophile thing they have going on, for example), suicide baiting them more often than not and even ruining their offline lives.

And then I realize. They’re enacting their own version of the fucking Patriot Act.

If the person seems dangerous you have a right to stop them, detain them and have their lives destroyed. Doesn’t matter if you’re biased and paranoid, doesn’t matter if they’re innocent. What matters is stopping potential threats.

And to most antis, specially young antis, everyone is a threat.

They spent most of their lives in a semi to full authoritarian cultural and political climate, where there was always at least one authority figure and where they are told, constantly, that their lives/innocence/virginity/whatever conservatives say these days is in danger and strangers are not safe — specially adult strangers, who might attack them or abuse them or groom them.

Then they move to a space without authority and where rules are not really that strict, where they have freedom and they might find themselves engaging with adults strangers.

And their paranoia goes haywire, because they’re so used to the structure of their regular life — and are extremely uneducated, a combination of both their ages and a shitty education system in the US case — that the only way they think they’ll be safe is by restructuring fandom into the same sort of authoritarian society they come from.

So they do what their society did, they allow themselves and give themselves power to single out people who they deem dangerous and try to destroy them, because making them join is not even an option.

Once you’re seen as a threat you will always be a threat.

Holy shit, I think you’ve hit the nail on the head there. I always attributed it to them watching too much “To Catch a Predator” and seeing themselves as internet vigilantes, but I was completely missing the social climate the led to the creation of those sorts of tv shows in the first place.  Do they even know about the Patriot Act? Or is the Partriot Act (or similar things) just the usual end result of this sort of paranoia and authoritarianism? 

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We’re getting pretty close to having adults who weren’t alive during 9/11, and we really need to admit at this point that the overemphasis on 9/11 in the US is just a propaganda machine to indoctrinate the younger generations into nationalism and to justify all the horrible war crimes the US committed in the Middle East, and the continued mistreatment and distrust towards refugees.

more people died in hurricane maria than in 9/11 but nobody gives a shit because we can’t use it to justify imperialism

Youth will make this arguement that it’s always imperialist to bring up 9/11 or to mourn on 9/11 and if you don’t want to, that’s fine, that’s your shitick. But do not conflate it with a hurricane. Those two things are NOT similar.

Innocence died on that day. The thought that we could go about and not live in fear of being struck down at any moment ended that day. And some old white men might make it a racist thing but as you can clearly see, we live in more fear and present danger than ever before. And it wears all faces. But that was the day those of us alive came face to face with our mortality.

I was seven. I was seven and at a birthday party. The whole building closed up and shut down, everyone inside started crying and screaming. Even from where I stood, miles and miles away in a completely different state, people in that party center lost loved ones and relatives.

I had dreams of going to the Chicago Art Institute. I never went. I never went because it was a “big city” and my parents kept saying “it could happen again.” I didn’t get to fly on planes till I was much, much older because “it could happen again.” My plans for my entire life changed out of the fear born from that day. And it did for everyone that lived through it.

This new Diet Woke bullshit is the equivalent to screaming at everyday citizens to reduce their footprint to impact climate change, even though mega corporations are responsible for the overwhelming majority of waste. A handful of old white guys mourn 9/11 for the wrong reasons. Most people remember it as the day they faced the horror of how bad reality can actually get. Don’t spread this nasty shit painting it on everyone else.

That day HAS affected you, even if you weren’t alive to see it. This cycle of waiting for the next big massacre wasn’t a thing before that day, and the ever-present fear you feel wasn’t either. There was a time when people looked at the tv, saw a bunch of people dying and didn’t think “oh, so it’s happening again,” and younger generations do not have that luxury.

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a generalization of what i and most other artists experience constantly, it’s happened like 3 or 4 times in the past two days and wow had to get this out

ARTISTS ARE ACTUALLY NORMAL PEOPLE JUST LIKE YOU, PUBLIC IS SHOCKED

Because yeah that seems to happen from time to time. We´re not machines.

I don’t know if it just happened to be this way, but I’m just gonna assume it was a little hint by the artist, but notice how unlike the Excessively Modest and Overzealous people are hiding the “YOU” on their shirts, while the Casual one keeps it out in the open.

I have a feeling I’ve come across as overzealous before, and for that I truly apologize.

I’ve had the excessively modest and overzealous types perceive my discomfort with some sort of rejection and its really awkward.

Personal opinion, but a lot of the people in the first two categories are not neurotypical. As someone with crippling anxiety, it took me a LONG time to find comfort in being casual around strangers. Sometimes, it’s still hard.

And as an artist, I find it somewhat pretentious the amount of “etiquette rules” that get shared around for talking to artists. I don’t want people that talk to me to stress about etiquette. OP may have the “best interests” in mind with this tutorial, but it goes the other way, too. If you’re an artist with an “obsessive” or “self-depricating” fan, consider they might be nervous? Shy? They might be autistic, have ADHD, or they might just be at their first convention and super excited? Give people the benefit of the doubt.

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has any song ever gone harder than sweet transvestite tho

i am watching rocky horror picture show for the first time so i might as well liveblog it

so far brad is quite incredibly useless. it’s incredible.

question: how attractive am i meant to find frank-n-furter? because i feel like the answer is ‘not as much as i do’

local man born thirty seconds ago immediately begins elaborate song routine about how he wishes he was dead. relatable content 

i’m convinced mary shelley would have loved this 

wait what the fuck?? what th fuck??

did meatloaf just drive out of a freezer????

WITH A SAXOPHONE????

frank-n-furter just murdered a man because only they are allowed to do solos. gotta respect that artistic integrity.

“yes i’m afraid so”

he tried it with BOTH of them???? what a fucking power move

fucking riffraff cockblocking brad and frank??? completely unfair. very cruel. not acceptable. let rocky wander naked outside in the rain, he’s fine. 

‘i’d only ever kissed before’

well that’s just not true, is it, janet. nobody randomly fucks a spooky man in a corset in a tent for their first time. come on.

also can she please put a shirt on? i’m finding it very hard to focus on like. plot. or whatever. she has very nice rockies.

OH SHIT THE OTHER SCIENTIST IS HERE IT’S ALL KICKING OFF

did they just drive his wheelchair through a brick wall

the way that scary sexy lady bangs the gong and cries ‘dinner.. is served!’ and then stands there looking so incredibly proud of herself for like five full seconds until she’s acknowledged is like. that’s truly a mood right there.

that awkward moment when you accidentally killed someone’s nephew and you’re sitting around with a party hat on trying to ignore it

oh what the fuck frank!!! literally what the fuck!!! why do you have a coffin under the dining table! why is there a body there! frank!! come on!! the people were enjoying dinner!

frank!!!!!!

frank’s an alien?????????

this… should probably not be as shocking to me as it is

HE TURNED THEM INTO STATUES???????????

btw as far as i’m concerned the musical numbers in this film are 100% diagetic. i will not be convinced otherwise. 

wait they split a brain between two people? they split a brain? transylvania is a planet? 

this film has two modes: no plot for forty minutes and forty minutes of plot in thirty seconds

‘they had both tasted… forbidden fruit’ is a nice way of saying ‘both had ole frank stick it in ‘em’

who even IS this guy

this is literally the only valid remaking of frankenstein

once again, i have no idea what’s happening, but i am most certainly into it

frank is so consistently extra

honestly a role model (except for the, uh… murder)

where did he get a POOL?

is now a good time to admit i did not realise they had been eating eddie until i read the wikipedia page 

i guess it’s just like that sometimes

when did the professor get stockings and heels? is that just something that happens with exposure to frank-n-furter? do you like, wake up one day and suddenly you’re in full drag and can’t do anything about it?

“I can explain!” and he whispers in their ears

i honestly thought he was telling them he loved them or to hide or something

no, he was just giving them lighting and sound instructions

we stan a legend

again, a surprisingly canonical adaptation of frankenstein here

had victor been murdered by his fellow aliens, that is

the castle just flies up and into space because of course it does

aaaaaaaaand it’s over!!!

i honestly did not think i would enjoy that as much as i did

but i really really liked it

i’m hopefully gonna go see it in my city for halloween and i’m going to be really disappointed if everyone isn’t crossdressing and yelling stuff at the screen

I laughed so hard I cried at this

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for the last……..i don’t know, 5 or so years, my m.o. regarding internet bisexual disourse has largely been to ignore it and encourage other bi people to do the same. it made sense to me because as far as i could see it was an issue that exclusively existed on this site. which isn’t to say i didn’t think it was harmful – i hated myself for years as a direct result of the things other lgbt people said about bisexual women on here – but i thought the harm could largely be avoided by blocking the few loudmouths who were trying to start shit and hanging with people who weren’t evil.

i no longer feel that way.

i no longer feel that way because, as of yesterday, you absolute fucking buffoons have ran your mouth so far that your fire new radical materialist feminist discourse so hot even fellow lgbts cant handle????????? has reached lena fucking dunham

do you want to know WHY your radical materialist feminist discourse reached lena dunham?????

because a bisexual journalist made this simple ass tweet

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and in response, some straight white woman decided to tweet this

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which would have just stayed straight nonsense if an extremely smart and clever white lesbian writer friend of hers hadn’t decided to join in with a searing hot take based on a radical perspective towards gender that could only have been achieved with her clearly useful phd in queer literature

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which would have just stayed mildly irritating if she and the rest of her friends hadn’t proceeded to defend themselves by arguing that bi women deserve rape and abuse actually

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which would have only been horrifyingly offensive if all of these people weren’t 1.) people who make money writing about lgbt shit that 2.) were tweeting from their work accounts where 3.) they have enough reach to be followed by actually influential people such as comrade lena dunham

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so seeing as the “close your eyes and maybe itll go away” method has CLEARLY failed, i am genuinely pleased to announce my new tactic. its called

“I Am Going To Spread The CDC Stats on Bisexual Assault and Abuse Everywhere Until It’s So Well Known Every Bisexual Has It Memorized and is Pissed as Hell About It” 

All of this is a prime example of why we can’t call biphobia a “subset of homophobia”.

Friendly reminder that Lena Dunham repeatedly molested her own little sister and she should have no voice in media at all, let alone the LGBT community!

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I forget where it was but I saw jeans for sale and like they were labeled as “girlfriend cut” instead of ‘boyfriend’ and like the irony to me is that the term “boyfriend style jeans” was originally done as this weird way to heterosexualize the dangerous idea of women wearing slightly loose pants so you knew you weren’t a dyke but like apparently the use of the term “boyfriend” was like too much of a gender confusion crisis for the buyer so they had to change it *again* as opposed to just calling it “loose fitting” to begin w and now it has fully no-homo’d itself into a corner and it just sounds like yr stealing yr jeans from some butch girl yr dating

My fave quirk w boyfriend jeans is that time the gap didn’t realize that having jeans that were “boyfriend” cut and “pegged” style would turn out greater than the sum of its parts

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I just read this super sad post about this girl who’s asexual and married and everyone is basically telling her that she doesn’t deserve her husband/she’s just a prude/she should just do it anyway.
So I want to tell you all right now that if people tell you this, or if they tell you you’ll never have a relationship, it is BULLSHIT.
My husband is asexual and I’m not. He’s sex repulsed, we don’t have sex, we never have.
And it doesn’t matter to me. You know what does? He does. His mental health and wellbeing matter to me. Because he is my best friend and he’s one of the smartest, kindest, funniest people I’ve ever met. And he’s had people tel him that he’s broken and it makes me SO ANGRY because they are WRONG.
Being different doesnt mean you’re broken.
If you don’t like sex/don’t want it/etc. Do not let anyone tell you that you’re inferior because you’re not.
Do not let anyone convice you that you’ll never have a relationship because they’re wrong(if you want one).
You are not broken, and it will be okay.

This made me feel really good. Remember this, for all my ace spectrum friends out there

#it’s really reassuring to hear from the partner #the one who’s not ace #but is totally cool with having no sex #loves her husband anyway #is in a stable and happy relationship #it’s such a relief when you discover that asexuality is a thing #that you’re okay #but then you start to wonder if it means your only chance at not ending up alone is finding someone else who’s also ace #but no #turns out it’s not #that’s really good to hear #so #thanks #so ace #so space

I hope you don’t mind me reblogging your tags but these are my feelings EXACTLY

I’m always a little nervous that I’m not “good enough” for a “real relationship” because sex isn’t on the table. So yeah, these stories are reassuring

The amount of pressure from society to have sex is incredible. We’re told it’s linked to relationship health and if you’re not willing to do every damn thing you’re labeled a prude. It’s incredibly disheartening, especially considering how one’s libido can change over the years even if you’re not ace. Nice to see a supportive piece from a partner.

OK, kids, buckle up it’s story time.

When I got married, I hadn’t had sex yet.  Waiting until marriage was important to me, so that’s what I did.  My wedding night was the first time I had sex.

It sucked.

I figured, ok, this is new for both of us, it’s probably going to take some practice.

A year later?  It still sucked  We tried a lot of different stuff.  A lot  of different stuff. 

It sucked so bad, we even bought a copy of “Sex for Dummies”.

(it didn’t help)

I started working late so I didn’t go to bed at the same time as my husband.  Every time he would travel for work, I’d be grateful that I didn’t have to go through the awkwardness of avoiding his advances when I went to bed.

He didn’t think it was healthy for a newlywed couple to have sex less than once a week.  So we scheduled it.  Repeat, scheduled intimacy.  I thought I was putting on a brave face and doing what I needed to do to maintain a good relationship.

Because I had no idea that asexuality was a thing.

I talked to my husband, told him I didn’t like sex.  He didn’t understand.  I lost track of how many times I said: “It’s not that I don’t want to have sex with you.  I don’t want to have sex with anyone.”

So it was established, Amber doesn’t like sex.

But we still did it.  Because I wanted my husband to be happy.  Sometimes halfway through, I’d start crying.

And he’d always be supportive, and apologize.

After he finished.

So when I found out about asexuality, and told him how I felt, he suggested I go to a doctor.  Because obviously there was something wrong with me.

So I went to a doctor.

(surprise, surprise, I’m perfectly healthy)

Then I told my mom.  When she suggested meds to improve my sex drive, I broke down in tears.  I told her there was nothing wrong with me.  And my mom has been 100% supportive of my orientation ever since.  When people ask if I’m a lesbian, she teaches them about asexuality.  

But anyway back to my journey of self-discovery

So I tell my husband, I’m asexual, I don’t want to have sex.  You are not asexual, you do want to have sex.  One of us is going to be miserable in this relationship, and I’m tired of it being me.  I love you too much to make you miserable for the rest of your life, but I love myself too much to be miserable for the rest of my life.  We might have to face the fact that we’re not right for each other.

So his immediate response is “no, I can change, I’ll do anything, divorce is not an option, etc”

But I can’t exactly ask him to stop wanting to have sex.  Because that’s not how allosexual people work.  And he can’t seduce me into wanting to have sex, because that’s not how asexual people work.

Anyway.  He cries, I cry, we decide on marriage counseling to help our comunication.

Because we’d been married for almost 6 years by this point, and had been together for 3 years before that, and we still can’t really talk about what we want (or don’t want) in regards to sex.

So we go to counselling for 6 weeks.  The first 3 sessions individually, and the last 3 together.  During the together sessions, the therapist would prompt us with a question, and we’d talk to each other, being completely honest about things.

During (what turned out to be) our last session, I’d finally had enough.  I’d had enough of being embarrassed about what anyone else would think.  Enough of the gender roles I was being forced into.  Enough of paying someone to watch me talk to my husband.  Enough of pretending to salvage a relationship that I had been increasingly avoiding over the past 2 years, and I said:

“Josh, I love you.  We have communication problems, but we’ve been together almost ten years and I’m willing to work through those if you think we can make it work.  But I am never having sex with you again.”

(At this point, the therapist who’d been trying to get us to communicate put down her notebook and said, ok I think we’re done.)

Then and only then, did he agree to file for divorce.

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I say all that to say this:

Don’t you dare fucking tell me that asexual representation doesn’t matter.  I would have six years of my life back if I had known.

And if you’re in a relationship, talk to each other oh my God.  About everything.  What dream you had last night.  That song from scout camp that randomly gets stuck in your head.  The reason you don’t like sweet potato.  That embarrassing thing you did in third grade that still makes you mad when you think about it.  If you and your partner can share these tiny, intimate details, talking about sex is no big deal.  And it takes practice, so practice.

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On a happy note, now, 3 years after the divorce, I am in a happy, stable relationship with another ace.  And if you happen to ask my mom how I’m doing, she’ll tell you “I’ve never seen my baby girl happier.”

It gets better.  But it’s up to you to make it that way.

@theonetheonlyjordanelizabeth please read this ❤️ I may be sex repulsed but I know that I love you and thats what matters ✨

I know this is already really long and really informative, but I also wanted to add a partner’s perspective. I too, have an ace fiancee. I knew about it before our relationship. I didn’t know it was a thing until I met her, and that was huge to me because I learned something new and also came to understand an old friend a little better. 

I, on the other hand, am not ace. I am at the complete opposite end of the spectrum. I am pansexual, and she has a hard time I think coming to terms with the fact that I don’t want to make her have sex.

Like, ‘Really?’ you might ask me. Like really is my only reply. I have loved her for a long time now, and being we met over Tumblr and we knew one another before the relationship, sex isn’t a big deal in our relationship. and I can think of at least ten of my friends who would feel the same way right now. 

ASEXUALITY IS A REAL THING, LOVING, SWEET ACE RELATIONSHIPS ARE REAL! Just because your partner wants sex doesn’t make you broken. Just because you don’t want sex doesn’t mean you should have to force yourself to do so. 

Just be honest with one another, love one another. If a relationship can’t survive a healthy, honest conversation, then it wasn’t a very strong relationship to begin with. 

TL;DR People who can’t see past sex as a ‘core’ in a relationship with someone ace/sex repulsed is an asshole.